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Mourning Booth

Depression is the great disease of our age, our generation with no war to fight, fighting for their will to live. There comes a time that everybody feels like down in the hole. You lose the will to go out, socialize, even to talk with friends. You can't smile you used to do even smile like before.

There is a season in everyone’s life of walking through the valley. Even though it is in our nature as human beings to want to fix things, sometimes all that is needed is our presence. I recently came across a video by the SkitGuys entitled 'The Mourning Booth'. Here's some insights on the video...

Psalm 23 says, “Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.”

The valley- it is a depression or an extended canyon that seems to go in one direction. It seems like it could go on forever. You see, we all seem to go through these valleys in our life. We may be entering the valley, we may be in the middle of the valley, or we’re about to leave the valley. And the valley… it can come in all different shapes and forms. It can be the loss of a friendship, the metaphorical death of a dream or missed opportunity. It can even be the literal death of someone that we love. Basically, it is something that ceases to exit in our lives as we now know it.

Ecclesiastes says there is a time for everything. There is a time to laugh…and there’s a time to cry. It’s that mourning season. It is that season of pain.

Everyone hurts at some point. We all feel the pain of experiencing the valley of the shadow of death. When we are in the midst of pain, it feels like it goes on forever. There is no relief in sight. I’m not talking about having a bad day or even a big inconvenience.I’m talking about those seasons when the pain hurts in our bones… in our gut… down to the very core of who we are.
So where do we go when we mourn? Where do we go with those thoughts of pain and those wounds? Jesus said, “For those that are mourning, do just that… mourn. But he also gave a promise that there will be comfort. So for those people who are in the valley with no end in sight, they must be comforted. And we want to help. We want to be there for people. But in reality, there are no words that we can say for someone who is sitting in their mourning booth.
In everyone's life there is a time where we have a season where we must walk through the valley. To those on the outside looking in, we tend to want to help "fix" it for them. To those that are walking in the valley though, the concept of "fixing" it is an impossible feat. Even though each moment is an eternity filled with despair, sometimes all they need is someone to simply "be" there.

So the next time you see someone in mourning, depression, despair or they are just simply out of kilter... don't be afraid to allow them their season, but also just be there. You get the drift.

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  1. oh no! now u make me feel so so so bad for scolding my friend who was in mourning booth :(

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